Credit to Stock Photo on Google Search I used to love her once... I think at some point we have all said a variation of that statement. There is a beauty in love; however, it seems the older that we get the harder it is to love. I have found so many women lately that have admitted that they are so scarred that they are scared. My last two exes both honestly had so much damage from their prior relationships that they decided that it would be best for them to exit with me because committing terrified them. They convinced themselves that they would hurt me or I would not be patient enough to understand their consistent wall building. It was sad. I admit I grew frustrated but now I am blessed to see the wisdom of letting go. Scarred people can't love because they are too busy trying to medicate their hearts with logic- of why it should be healthy.
Don't get me wrong. This is not a female bashing sensitive get over it blog. Our brothers and yes even me have scars as well. If we are honest unless we are truly living by commandments and honoring our values we all have found ourselves in relationships that may not have been the most healthy for us.
In conclusion, love is difficult to remain free and unbothered. It is a consistent choice to be true. My mother defines romantic love as the ability to forgive, forget, and then to change. She said, "True love is like water always trying to find the least resistance and always offering strength simultaneously." It is one of the most profound ideas that I have ever heard. I wish it was easy. I wish I had a magic elixir to provide for all the broken and scarred hearts. A potion that could break down the walls or offer some hope that all can't be bad. I understand why people are treating love like prosecutors now: Guilty until proven innocent. It is an acquired habit to protect the hurt.
Hurt people, Hurt people: so I do suggest you wait. Wait from that next relationship. Heal. Heal so that you can love. In the meantime, I will pray for us all that our hearts are renewed. I am a work in process. I am no where near where I should be but I am so far from where I was. Love can exist and it is starting to flirt with me. I loved once and soon I will truly, freely, love again. Be blessed and stay courageous good people. Love will and always does find a way.
-Urban Thoughts
Don't get me wrong. This is not a female bashing sensitive get over it blog. Our brothers and yes even me have scars as well. If we are honest unless we are truly living by commandments and honoring our values we all have found ourselves in relationships that may not have been the most healthy for us.
In conclusion, love is difficult to remain free and unbothered. It is a consistent choice to be true. My mother defines romantic love as the ability to forgive, forget, and then to change. She said, "True love is like water always trying to find the least resistance and always offering strength simultaneously." It is one of the most profound ideas that I have ever heard. I wish it was easy. I wish I had a magic elixir to provide for all the broken and scarred hearts. A potion that could break down the walls or offer some hope that all can't be bad. I understand why people are treating love like prosecutors now: Guilty until proven innocent. It is an acquired habit to protect the hurt.
Hurt people, Hurt people: so I do suggest you wait. Wait from that next relationship. Heal. Heal so that you can love. In the meantime, I will pray for us all that our hearts are renewed. I am a work in process. I am no where near where I should be but I am so far from where I was. Love can exist and it is starting to flirt with me. I loved once and soon I will truly, freely, love again. Be blessed and stay courageous good people. Love will and always does find a way.
-Urban Thoughts